RECONCILIATION
In the following parable, I am exploring the bitter fruits of unforgiveness. I have personally experienced how destructive it can be when unforgiveness is left unchecked in your heart and I have also experienced how wonderful and freeing forgiveness can be.
Let me be perfectly clear. I do not believe that forgiving someone is, in any way, condoning their actions. It has nothing to do with that. I am commanded to forgive, because I have been forgiven. When I am obedient in this; when I forgive those who did me harm even though they do not deserve it, I am simply removing myself from the position of judge and acknowledging that I, too, have been the recipient of forgiveness that I did not deserve.
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Years
ago, I offended and hurt you. I slapped you in the face. I mocked you
and injured you. I stole your innocence and I murdered your dreams.
There was no obvious reason for my cruelty and I possessed no
apparent remorse.
I was heartless and callous.
You were
damaged and scarred, and then I was gone.
It was no small
thing. You carried the fresh wound for many months and then the wound
slowly closed to form a hardened scar. A scar that crippled you.
It
even distorted your reflection in the mirror.
From time to time
an event would trigger a mental movie of what I had done. It would
play and play again in your mind and a question kept rising from your
heart to your lips. An unanswerable question.
“Why?”
A
soft voice would always speak one word in the corner of your
mind,
“Forgive”
Usually the mental movie would drown
out the soft voice.
Sometimes the memories would cause an angry
outburst and your heart would race, your palms sweat and you would
cry out through clenched teeth,
“Why! Why!”
Sometimes
it would cause a pain in your heart that ignited a flood of tears and
you would whisper and gasp,
“Why…”
The soft voice
would, again, speak just one word.
Over the years, the
tide of joy has slowly been ebbing farther away and the waves of hope
disappearing, replaced by a stifling blanket of dry sand stretching
out before you. Somewhere on the distant horizon you sometimes see
the faint glimmer of an unattainable sea. That same question echoes
in your mind,
“Why?”
The soft voice is still
faithfully replying,
“Forgive”
but
you rarely hear it any more.
Lips chapped with the hot sun of
oppression.
Echoes of guilt lectures continually erode the
coast of innocence and hope, and
blame fingers
tear at
the very core of faith and trust.
As those
bitter
years marched
slowly past you,
the
memory of my
terrible deeds
faded from your mind and blew away, like dead leaves, but the scars
remained and the pain increased. The acrid
fruit of unforgiveness ripened, like Eve’s evil apple, blackening
your blood and stealing your life.
Distant waves come and
go
and shape the shoreline
somewhere, on an unattainable
horizon.
Shifting sands and terrible memories
dance
and suffocate
like
heat waves and mirages, all around.
The faint
booming of breakers
goes
mostly unheeded in the misty distance.
Sibilant, besieging
voices
screech
their
curses
in your ears
asking, hounding, even demanding
the
same tormenting
and unanswerable
“Why?”
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